Tyra's Show was shocking today, and it really wasn't. How laughable is it to many that some men put up with their abusive wives or girlfriends? That's right, abusive women! We are not always the victim. I have been on the receiving end, but I would be a hypocrite to not see the similarities in males who live in the same situation. To be frank, it is not something I want to admit, but I witnessed it growing up. God bless both of my parents ~ they are not perfect but have changed for the better. Yet, as a child I could realize that how my mother attempted to control my father was wrong and embarrassing. He'd go to work, and make up lies for the scratches on his body. I was mainly surprised that there are men abused every 38 seconds in America.
The resulting view of women was strange for me afterwards. At times, if a woman was violent, I felt she deserved to get a "beat-down". This later transformed into my own submissiveness and allowing of violence in my household. It wasn't until things became a bit extreme that I decided to leave. And you know what, this person I will not name was also raised in a violent household. The cycle, to coin a phrase, is vicious indeed. It is non-stop until an adult stops and realizes the consequences. My son witnessed it all, and I am hoepful that he will become a peaceful man or will not let himself become dominated. Old news, but I think of Rihanna and Chris Brown ~ both children of a dysfunctional unit.
The point is, abuse is abuse. We shouldn't sugar coat it based on gender - isn't that a bit discriminatory? Would we rather a man physically retaliate against a woman? I don't think so. 911 might be dialed quickly. My main concern is how the children will respond. Regardless of gender, these small witnesses are always affected.
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